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Now that I know what love is, I feel lonely

Now that I know what love is, I feel lonely.
I am the youngest from a big family. Everybody got married and had children and I was (am) always the sweet concerned aunt.

It was always fine for me like that. I had had a short relationship and it hurt wen we broke up. That's why I wasn't open for a relationship for a long time. I always focused on work and felt satisfied with that.

But now that's not enough anymore.

I ended up, totally unexpected, in an affair with a married man. That woke me up to love. We are not together anymore, but now that I know what love is, I feel lonely. I would like so much to have a relationship. It is like I didn't live before and now I do.

The strange thing is that my surrounding doesn't seem to expect me to still have a relationship. Sometimes I try to talk about the feeling of missing, but it is not understood. They see me as the 'ever-alone', I guess. I cannot share my sadness anywhere.


Anonymous
> 2 years ago
last response: 13-03-2024

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I fell for a woman who was having an affair with a married man.. Obviously I didn't know to start. She was also the youngest daughter and not married. I thought she was great. She told me she was lost and didn't know what she was doing. I couldn't believe it..I thought she was Beautiful, intelligent, ambitious, family orientated "the aunt".

It hurt me deeply that she chose him. I thought I was less of man, because she was choosing to be second. I mean a married man will always choose him wife (in the end). But it had nothing to do with me.

When I realised what was going on, I tried to confront her years ago but she never wanted to have the conversation. I guess she was in love with him. Either way I learnt a lot from that situation and about myself. You won't be 'ever-alone'. Nourish what is around you.

You never know, someone could already looking at you and wanting to make you number one. Be open, be honest and be vulnerable. . Love isn't thrilling all the time. Love is feeling safe, communication and compromise. Find your people, find you person, find yourself worth x

Anonymous
13-03-2024

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