Needing affection and companionship

I am not sure what is wrong with me. I've tried counseling and the last çounselor made me feel horrible about myself and honestly I was worried he might call my husband and throw me under the bus. I've been married for 24 years and for the last ten our marriage has suffered allot. I am very passionate and I love physical touch and I need attention and communication. I believe you get what you give. My husband is not attentive he's oblivious to my silent pleads of needing a friend or a hug or anything. He spends 50% of his time in his garage "doing projects" he spends 40% of his time at work and I might get the remaining 10%. I have been very vocal when I want him to know I will find attention somewhere. Not sexual I just need companionship. He doesn't seem to care. So I have cheated. I don't intend to. But I have cheated allot. I'm not trying to have an affair. I don't want someone in my head or my feelings. I just need short term companionship. But the guilt eats me up. Because I have done it too many times. It's just that hot, steamy, body shivering initial stuff I love. I absolutely have no complaints about my intimacy with my husband, we have great sex. But now a days it's about 10-15 minutes. And very straightforward. So, I wanna stop but I don't know how.