How can I get control of my hormones

I've been cheating on my husband for 14 yrs. Because I genuinely a love him, he isn't at all suspicious, never goes looking Im assiduous in managing my phone, if it wasn't sure he'd find me out. My work gives me much free time & assignations are daytime an industrial scale. I have a social secretary who's worked from home for years and helps, not knowing what they help me with.
I've reached an age where a quiet life would suit. However, menopause has not come to my rescue, as expected. "I know" I manage the so-called mind aspects, but not feeling that well up from my endocrine system. I can only describe them as heroine. Once they're in place I do anything to have sex. Fortunately, a phone call & I'm invited to soiree with lots of urbane guys. I get changed into something a lot more comfortable from a steamer trunk wardrobe I have there and it's on.
All the foregoing is probably my fault, the fact I have an exceptional figure must be down to genes. I have a body few women of my age can even dream of. At times I've suspected it's this that drives my libido. I now know it's not men fancy me, therefore I fancy men, that's post hoc ergo propter hoc. So how can I get control of my hormones, to give me a chance of a happy retirement? Gaining weight, dress badly, will cause misery. Mind is a reification, so it's not all in the mind. Help