James | Couples Counsellor and Psychotherapist

Couples Counselling Haggerston - London

Relationships can feel hard at times, especially when the same arguments keep repeating, communication breaks down, or emotional distance creeps in. You may feel stuck, unheard, or unsure how to move forward together. I offer a calm, neutral space where both partners are listened to, respected, and taken seriously.

My role isn’t to take sides, but to help you understand each other more clearly, communicate more honestly, and respond rather than react. This might involve finding new ways to talk about difficult topics, rebuilding trust, improving emotional or physical intimacy, or making sense of long-standing resentments that keep resurfacing.

I also help couples understand what’s happening beneath the surface of their conflicts. Whether you’re dealing with frequent arguments, trust or jealousy issues, intimacy difficulties, or a sense that you’ve drifted apart, counselling can offer a space to pause, reflect, and reset.

Often, relationship difficulties are not just about the present moment. They can be shaped by earlier experiences, past relationships, or the ways we learned to cope with closeness, conflict, and emotional needs growing up. These patterns can show up as withdrawal, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, fear of abandonment, or intense reactions during conflict. Developing awareness of these dynamics can be a powerful step towards meaningful change.

I also work with couples navigating major life pressures and transitions, such as career stress, creative or high-pressure lifestyles, infidelity, separation, or the question of whether to stay together. These moments can place enormous strain on a relationship, but they can also open the door to deeper honesty, clarity, and growth.

Alongside my couples work, I bring extensive experience supporting individuals with attachment difficulties, childhood experiences, anxiety, and high-pressure lives. This allows me to hold both the relationship dynamic and each partner’s individual emotional world in mind.

My approach is warm, grounded, and collaborative. I aim to create a space where difficult conversations feel safer, emotions can be expressed without blame, and genuine, lasting change becomes possible.