Debi | Counsellor and Relationship counsellor

Relationships do not break overnight. They drift. And by the time most couples seek help, they have been struggling quietly for longer than they want to admit. If that sounds familiar, you are in the right place.

I am Debi, an ICEEFT registered couples counsellor and BACP member based in East Yorkshire, working with couples online and in person across the UK. I hold an MSc in Counselling at Level 7 postgraduate level and I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), the most researched approach to couples work available.

EFCT works by helping couples understand the patterns and cycles that keep them stuck. Not just what they argue about, but what is happening underneath. Most conflict in relationships is not really about the dishes or the finances. It is about feeling unseen, disconnected or not enough. EFCT helps couples get underneath the surface and find each other again.

I work with couples at all stages. Some are in acute crisis. Some have been managing a slow distance for years. Some are navigating a specific event such as infidelity, redundancy, illness, menopause or becoming a blended family. Some simply want to invest in their relationship before things get harder. All of these are good reasons to come.

I also work with individuals on relationship patterns, attachment and the ways past experience shapes how we show up in our closest relationships.

I am also a qualified mediator, which means I am comfortable when there is real conflict in the room. Couples who arrive with a lot of heat are welcome here.

My approach is warm, direct and genuinely engaged. I do not sit back and observe. I am an active presence in the room, helping you both feel heard and helping you find a way to hear each other.

I know how hard it is to find time when life is full. I offer early morning, evening and Saturday appointments so therapy does not become another thing that does not fit

Sessions are 60 minutes and available online via Zoom or in person in East Yorkshire. I offer a free 20 minute initial consultation with no paperwork and no commitment, just a conversation to see whether working together feels right.

You do not need to have it figured out before you call.