Certified Imago Relationship Therapist - London - Aryeh

	Relationship Therapy Golders Green - London 18B North End Road, Golders Green NW11 7PH London
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Aryeh | Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

Relationship Therapy Golders Green - London

I am a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a BACP accredited psychotherapist with 15 years of counselling experience.

I am passionate about helping couples in crisis to rebuild love and connection through improving communication and gaining greater insight into their relationship.

Couples often experience a breakdown of communication, that causes a fight and flight reaction. These may become repetitive cycle of self destructive behaviour were anger expressed spins out of control .A reduction of emotional closeness, trust and physical intimacy follows which can lead to crises in the relationship, affairs and even the threat of divorce.

Together we explore what you need, why there is disconnection and how you can get the relationship you want. A key to this is building open and calm communication in order to understand each other, resolve conflict and meet each others needs . We also focus on building greater appreciation, care and fun to reignite love and connection in the relationship.

I use a three step approach to help transform your relationship

Step 1 Gain Greater Awareness

Understanding the root cause of your disconnection by gaining insight from the history of the relationship and communication styles .One common issue is one partner critises while the other withdraws. The greater the critism the greater the retreat , creating a painful cycle . Exploring past unresolved hurts that trigger hihgly emotional reactions is also very important .

Step 2 Improve Communication

Learn skills to communicate calmly and openly to resolve conflicts. One important technique is active listening , in which each person paraphrases the othetrs opinion before expressing their own.

Step 3 Rekindle Love and Intimacy

Rrebuilding closeness through increasing meaningful act of giving . These include, words of apprecaition, quality time , act of kindness , physical touch and gifts.

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Aryeh

Online therapy

I offer online therapy via Zoom as well as on WhatsApp.

Qualifications and registrations

MA Counselling and Psychotherapy, University of Wales - Regent College

Accredited Member of BACP

Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

Internal Family System Level 2

Registrations

BACP - The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

I offer therapy in

✓ English

Specialisations

COUPLE COUNSELLING - 3 STAGES OF IMPROVING A RELATIONSHIP

1 AWARENESS

Gaining greater insight into the dynamics of the relationship and its root of problem is the first staget of improving the relationship. Many relationships begin on a high, but when this begins to fade, the true person is revealed — warts and all. Negative traits may then begin to cause antagonism, and it is common for power struggles to develop in which each person strives to have their needs met.

One common dynamic is a ‘Hailstorm and Turtle relationship’. The ‘hailstorm’ person criticizes the other – throwing hail stones at them. The other acts like a turtle, pulling away and going into their shell. The hailstorm person then thinks – I am not getting my point across, so they throw more and larger hails stones – which make the turtle withdraw even more. This is one example there are of course many other difficult dynamics that occur in relationships which need to be understood.

Understanding triggering, how pain from past relationships may be projected onto current ones, can also be very important in getting to grips with the cause of problems.

2 IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

Gaining new communication skills plays a vital role in improving relationships. One important technique is known as “mirroring”, in which each person paraphrases the other’s opinion before expressing their own. Opinions are also expressed by using “I” statements reflecting how one feels, rather than with accusatory statements that begin with “you.” These help each person to feel heard, understood, and creates an empathetic environment in which people can work together to resolve differences.

3 ACTS OF CARE

Increasing acts of care, and giving,such as giving gifts, having a weekly “date” nights, or taking short trips away to spend quality time together, helps couples to reconnect. Dr Gary Chapman, author of ‘The Five Love Languages’, explains that there are five ways in which we express and experience love: Gift Giving, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service , and Words of. Appreciation. Different people have different ‘love languages’ and it’s important to understand what each person apppreciates .

Most common issues I support people with:

1) Conflict Resolution and Communication Issues

2) Rebuilding Trust after Affairs

3) Rekindling Love and Connection

4) Overcoming the Threat of Divorce

5) Anger Managemnet

Fees

Individual Counselling - Online £100, In Person £110

Couples Counselling - Online £120, In Person £130

(Each session is 50 minutes)

Availability (Opening hours)

Monday	11am-10pm
Tuesday	11am-10pm
Wednesday	11am-6pm
Thursday	11am-9pm
Friday	11am-4pm
Saturday	-
Sunday	11am-1pm

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