Deborah | Couples and Relationship Counsellor

Relationship Counselling Orpington

As a qualified couples and relationship therapist, I offer counselling sessions to couples in-person at my private practice in Orpington, or online nationwide. 

Relationships can be both deeply fulfilling and incredibly challenging. When communication breaks down, connection suffers, and both partners can feel unheard, misunderstood, or stuck in cycles of blame and frustration. When working with couples, I use a number of techniques, including Imago Relationship Therapy, a powerful and structured approach that helps partners move beyond conflict and rediscover connection.

The Imago dialogue is a structured, respectful conversation that allows each partner to speak and be truly heard, without judgment, blame or interruption. This fosters empathy, clarity, and emotional safety, helping couples to slow down reactive communication and begin to understand each other’s inner world.

Many of the struggles couples face stem from unconscious needs and expectations we bring into relationships, often shaped by early life experiences. When these needs go unmet, they can surface as conflict or disconnection. This shows up in many ways, such as mistrust, misunderstandings, arguments or betrayals. In therapy, I help couples explore these patterns with compassion and curiosity, creating new insight into themselves and each other so both partners feel supported and empowered to grow together.

Sometimes couples decide to end their relationship, and therapy can help you move towards your new lives apart with compassion and understanding.

We begin with an initial commitment of six sessions. This provides a strong foundation for understanding your relationship dynamic and practicing new communication tools. From there, therapy may continue for up to 12 sessions or more, depending on your unique goals and progress.

If you would like to know more or book an appointment, please send me a message via the send a message - button.