Ali | Certified Imago RelationshipTherapist

Relationship Counselling Didsbury

Hi I'm Ali, I am a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, former divorce solicitor and trained mediator.   Are you experiencing struggle and tension in your relationship and longing to reconnect ? I can help. Struggle is a normal part of intimate relationship and Imago Therapy has helped countless couples just like you.

I'm guessing that you and your partner have aleready discovered that  although struggle is normal in intimate relationships it is also deeply painful. Do you keep having the same argument over and over but nothing changes? Do you both feel criticised, blamed and judged? Has one of you had an affair and now you wonder if there is anyway to repair your trust and relationship? Or maybe there has been a growing distance between you for years and now you can hardly remember why you are together, except perhaps for the sake of the children. If so, I guess you may both be feeling weary and wounded; uncertain about whether it is possible to find your way back to a nurturing relationship. The good news is that it is possible.

Imago Dialogue: the path to reconnection

In different situations from neighbour disputes to international conflicts, people are finding that honest, open dialogue is the most effective pathway to restored relationship. It is just the same in intimate relationships. Imago relationship therapy offers you the opportunity to learn how to talk to each other safely and vulnerably about your experiences in the relationship, and work together to build a strong and joyful partnership in which you both feel safe and loved.

I will

• help you to reconnect with all that is positive in your relationship
• teach you a simple dialogue tool which will help you to hear and understand your partner even when their perspective is very different to yours
• teach you how to express difficult things safely without criticism, blame or judgement
• help you identify the things that happen between you that get in the way of connecting with each other
• help you to work out what is really going on in those fights you just keep having and then to vulnerably communicate your needs to each other 
• help you to understand why you react the way you do when you feel criticsed or threatened and teach you new ways to respond that strengthen your relationship

Working with me you will gradually

• communicate more effectively
• understand each other more deeply
• emotionally reconnect
• heal old wounds
• rediscover love and joy in your relationship. 

Does that feel too much to hope for right now? That’s ok, it is my job to hold the hope for you until you can hope in your relationship once more.  It will not be easy to get there, it will take courage, vulnerability, and a willingness by both of you to stretch and grow into new behaviour but it absolutely is possible, and I will support you to get there.

I charge £90 an hour and generally recomment fortnightly 90 minute long sessions (£135), although I am happy to discuss another pattern of sessions if this one would not work for you.

If you would like to explore whether I can help just drop me a line. Please give your mobile number too so I can let you know I've replied as I find that my initial emails often hide in people's junk folders!