Ashley | Existential Couples Psychotherapist

Couples Therapy Hastings

I have worked in mental health for over twenty-five years and have worked as a psychotherapist since 2002. 

If you are looking for a couples therapist then clearly you are trying to navigate roadblocks in your relationship which have suddenly, or over time, got in the way of your shared journey.  I can help you to identify the roadblocks, where they came from, and how to remove them.  I will help you learn how to find useful signposts, how to re-fuel your relationship's engine; how to share the driving in ways that work for you both of you; and how to visualise and then arrive at a destination shared by your both.  Close, long-term relationships are not supposed to be easy but the work is rewarding and worth it and I will be there with you every mile along the road.

I work with various models of couples therapy, specialising in identifying the various stages of your relationship and the patterns of behaviour that characterise these stages. I encourage you to notice - and name - your own reactions which come from past experience and get in the way of authentic reponses. I prioritise working with improving communication through self-awareness and curiosity towards your partner's feelings, desires, values etc. 

Whatever is getting in the way of being able to meet each other in a shared, safe, loving space I will be able to identify and help you clear the blockages. Whether you are stuck in anxiety or anger, in neediness or in escape-mode; whether you are feeling resentful or deeply hurt, insecure or guilty; whatever it is you are wrestling with I will help you both find the best ways to listen to each other and tell each other the truth.  Well done for coming to find me: the work starts here.

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