Alicia | Relationship Therapist

(Online) Couples Counselling North London

Hello and a warm welcome to my profile, wherever you are. I am a Relationship Therapist, although I do work with individuals as well.

Relationships can be super challenging but the fact is, whether you are in one, coming out of one or searching for one, most of us are striving for harmony within our relationships.

Often the relationships we treasure the most can be the most difficult or painful. I can provide a space for you to explore specific challenges within your relationship with your partner, or individual i.e family member. Perhaps you are trying to get on the same page with regards to the future of your relationship - working to stay together or working to separate, or maybe you are seeking to nurture your already established relationship, by ironing out a few creases. 

I would be very pleased to meet with you both so that we can discuss how we might move forward together, using a range of exercises, and the facilitation of important conversations.


Couples Therapy (70 mins - £120))
Couples often come to see me because they are struggling with communication. Can you relate to this? If so you can be sure that this is one of my areas of expertese. But I can also say that communication is often just the top layer. What we could also explore is: 'whats really going on here', in your relationship dynamic. 

Over the years couples have come to me with a range of issues, such as high conflict; intimacy issues; betrayal, sexual issues, parenting differences, emotional or physical infidelity; different life-goals; disillusionment; different life stages; traumatic situations; trust issues / jealously, and more. 
-Maybe you have lost hope in your relationship and feel stuck, because you can't communicate
-Everything is fraught and arguments are rarely resolved
-Or you feel so disconnected you have forgotten why you continue together
-Or it might be that your relationship has suffered a sudden, specific incident such as an affair or a death
-It could also be that you are experiencing a loss in your desire and attraction

I am also invested in coaching individuals through difficulties such as blocks to finding a partner, or low-self esteem and helplessness, when it comes to getting out there. 

Individual Cunselling (50 mins - £80))

As an Accredited Therapist (MBACP) I will encourage you to develop a clear and unique perspective on the areas of your life that you bring to our sessions. I will offer a non-judgmental space, nurturing self-awareness, whether you are struggling with issues around grief, identity, feelings of un-fulfilment or 'stuck-ness', anxiety, low mood / depression, suicidal ideation or thoughts, problems at work, relationship struggles, confidence, repeating unwanted patterns of behaviour, anger, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, trauma, attachment, abuse, unresolved issues from your past and many more themes that people can feel challenged by in their lives. I trained in Gestalt,and in my practice I draw upon a range of therapeutic models, however at the heart of my approach I will be working relationally, which means that the here and now relationship between myself as the therapist and you as my client is kept in mind and attended to.

I completed my training in 2006 and am also a parenting coach, with an interest in strengthening complicated or fraught relationships with adult's, their children and/or loved ones. I also have a specific interest in bringing into awareness what you are consciously or unconsciously attracting or not attracting into your life.

If this is your first time coming for counselling / therapy I can answer any questions you may have. We will talk together about what you would like to get from coming for counselling, and if you like we can set some goals to work towards. We can agree that we will meet for a shorter number of sessions, or longer term. And if you wanted to extend short term to long term, that will be an option. 

I have been working as a counsellor with individuals since 2006 and have since trained in relationship therapy, specialising in strengthening complicated or fraught relationships between adults. I believe that for most, relationships are profound when it comes to the meaning of life; the relationships you did or didnt have with your caregivers; your siblings and peers. And as you grow the intimate relationships you forge into adulthoot. Every relationship has a dynamic and these dynamics can lead to resentment, difficult feelings and more. The question is, how to navigate through all this.

And lastly when thinking about relationships, how is the relationship you have with yourself...

Diversity Statement
I want to take the chance here to mention inclusivity and uniquenss. Some parts of your identity will not be obvious, some of them might be more so, such as ethnicity or disability. But whatever makes you - you, you are welcome to get in touch. I want to be inclusive and welcoming whatever race, background, gender identity (sis, non binary, gender fluid, gender neutral, transgender, trans), sexuality (straight, gay, LGTBQ, pan, bi) and perference (non sexual, vanilla, BDSM, kink), relationship status (dating, single, solo, married, sepetrated, divorced, open, monogamous, unsure), physical or mental health condition and anything else ive missed here.

I have worked with individuals, accross the spectrum of identity and uniquness mentioned above. And I am committed to continuing to educate myself in areas where I am less aware. You can always tell me if I miss something important about you, or make a mistake which you feel is insensitive or uneducated. Please call me 'in'.

If you would like to know more or book an appointment, please send me a message via the send a message - button.