Alicia | Relationship Therapist

(Online) Couples Counselling North London

Please Note: I only work online.

Hello and a warm welcome to my profile, wherever you are. I am a Relationship Therapist, although I do work with individuals as well.

I now work solely online.

First of all I want to acknowledge that this might feel a bit daunting - taking steps towards finding the right therapist for you and another person in your life. So it's important that I say here that I always aim to provide a warm, non-judgemental space. Furthemore I admire people who honour themselves and their relationships so as to seek guidance and support.

I have been working as a counsellor with individuals since 2006 and have since trained in relationship therapy, specialising in strengthening complicated or fraught relationships between adults. I believe that for most, relationships are profound when it comes to the meaning of life; the relationships you did or didnt have with your caregivers; your siblings and peers. And as you grow the intimate relationships you forge into adulthoot. Every relationship has a dynamic and these dynamics can lead to resentment, difficult feelings and more. The question is, how to navigate through all this.

And lastly when thinkning about relationships, the relationship you have with yourself...

Relationship Therapy

-Perhaps you and your partner are trying to get on the same page with regard to the future of your relationship i.e working to stay together or working to separate
-Or maybe you have lost hope in your relationship and feel stuck, because you cant communicate
-Everything is fraught and arguments are rarely resolved
-Or you feel so disconnected you have forgotten why you continue 
-Or it might be that your relationship has suffered a sudden, specific incident such as an affair or a death
-It could also be that you are experiencing a loss in your desire and attraction

As a Couples Therapist I will be guiding you towards a steady, safe foundation from where you can explore your dynamic & communication style, alongside the context of what is important for you as individuals within your relationship. My sessions can be structured, with exercises and tools, or you might wish to let things unfold more organically.

In line with my training in the Develepmental Model I am interested in the stages of relationships; First there is the Simbiotoc stage (often referred to as the 'honeymoon phase') where couples become 'we'. After this can come several different stages such as 'Differentiation' and 'Practicing'. Perhaps you would like to discover which stage you are in? And is your partner in the same stage?

Diversity Statement
I want to take the chance here to mention inclusivity and uniquenss. Some parts of your identity will not be obvious, some of them might be more so, such as ethnicity or disability. But whatever makes you - you, you are welcome to get in touch. I want to be inclusive and welcoming whatever race, background, gender identity (sis, non binary, gender fluid, gender neutral, transgender, trans), sexuality (straight, gay, LGTBQ, pan, bi) and perference (non sexual, vanilla, BDSM, kink), relationship status (dating, single, solo, married, sepetrated, divorced, open, monogamous, unsure), physical or mental health condition and anything else ive missed here.

I have worked with individuals, accross the spectrum of identity and uniquness mentioned above. And I am committed to continuing to educate myself in areas where I am less aware. You can always tell me if I miss something important about you, or make a mistake which you feel is insensitive or uneducated. Please call me 'in'.