I have cheated online

Hello, I am located in the U.S. and have had an impossible time finding similar forums where I live, so I’m hoping an international perspective might help.

I have been married for almost 10 years. My wife and I generally get along and we have a child. We both work hard to provide and rarely have time for each other. I have brought this up multiple times in multiple ways and my wife just seems to think things will work itself out. I feel ignored and abandoned. We have also barely had sex because of family responsibilities.


I have cheated online with numerous people, though never physically met. The desire is strong but I know leaving my wife means a complete disintegration of my family and the trauma that will be inflicted on my child. I have desperately tried to communicate needs to my wife, but she seems unwilling and rather dense when it comes to initiative. What can be done?